Oct 22 , 2021
You see your partner almost every day. They are usually the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you speak to at night. But seeing each other every day does not equate to a healthy relationship. Spending quality time with your significant other is the ideal way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and robust. This means doing something different. Sitting together and watching Netflix may only help so much. You deserve more from your relationship, and so does your spouse.
One of the easiest things you can do for yourself and for the relationship is to be proactive in managing your time. With kids and work, a committed partnership may slip into being roommates that are too exhausted to have a conversation with each other. Work, children, and other social obligations do take up a lot of time and energy, yes, but if you don’t manage them well, it may cost you your relationship.
- Try new things together
If you’ve ever wanted to learn a new instrument or a new language, now is the time to try all these out. Except, instead of considering them a solo hobby, involve your partner. Being with someone for a long time means you have most likely run out of stories to tell each other. There are no newer jokes. So trying new activities together will give you something to talk about. And more than that, it will strengthen your bond as it will encourage emotional and physical reliance on each other.
Shared hobbies promote friendship, and the chances of your happiness are higher if your spouse is also your best friend.
- Plan more date nights
Don’t just go out for a regular dinner. Instead, plan your date nights more. Maybe recreate your first date. Or maybe have a fancy night where you cook each other’s favorite meals. Put the kids to bed early, dress up for your partner, decide on a movie in advance, then dive in.
What will even be better is to cook a meal together. On your date night, decide on a meal you both enjoy and cook it together. Then, pop open a bottle of wine, put on some romantic music, and get busy. This is one of the best ways to spend quality time together, especially when you both have busy schedules otherwise.
If everything works out, you’ll have a nice meal by the end of the night. If not, then you’ll have made a lot of new memories together that you will laugh at later on.
- Break a sweat
One way to spend quality time together is to hit the gym. This will also help you with individual growth and also help with development as a couple. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay consistent on their workout routine if they work out together. Couples also work out harder than they would solo.
It is very easy to stop trying once you have kids and get busy with your schedules. However, it is just as important to put in the effort and time in your relationship after marriage as you did before.
Dr. Sharon Fried Buchalter Ph.D., is a distinguished clinical psychologist, life coach, and public speaker who has worked as a Marriage and Family Therapist and clinical social worker. She received the highest accreditation as a board-certified diplomate-fellow in advanced child and adolescent psychology. She has spent her lifetime educating, enlightening and empowering parents and children of all ages.
She has developed revolutionary tools to help couples, parents, and families achieve happiness and success. Her first book Children Are People Too, provides eight essential steps designed to strengthen families and empower parents to be their own child's life coach and mentor. Her second book New Parents Are People Too, provides relationship advice for couples entering parenthood for the first time.
She is also the founder and owner of Products On The Go and Little Toes.